A significant number of my friends are getting married this year, and I hope to make as many weddings that I'm invited to as possible. Though I'm happy for them and wish them well, I can't help but worry about the possibility that somewhere along the line, something will become irreconcilable and that some of these new unions might end in divorce. Granted, most of these friends getting hitched are of a particular social group where both bride and groom-to-be are evangelicals with similar worldviews... but that's not always enough right? Evangelicals have a lower rate of divorce, but the rate among all Christians, evangelicals included, is similar to the national average.
Where I'm coming from... I saw a few marriages fail during my Iraq deployment, whether it was divorce, infidelity, or both. I won't go into details because it's not my place, but it just caused me to be really disappointed in the human condition. Sure, it's a unique set of circumstances that 99% of American couples will NEVER have to face but at the same time, in this day and age you only have a 50-50 chance of making it through marriage, depending on what source you cite!
I don't want to come across as passing judgment or anything, and this ties back into the jealousy piece - I admit I'm a little jealous that some friends seem to have this figured out, and I know for certain that they're intelligent enough to avoid exercising poor judgment. I'm just cognizant that not everything goes according to plan, and I just wish that my friends can avoid suffering unnecessary heartaches and emotional devastation. A lot of this kind of bullshit and suffering from failed human relationships is the natural state of the world, but I think we can do better than that.
Where I'm coming from... I saw a few marriages fail during my Iraq deployment, whether it was divorce, infidelity, or both. I won't go into details because it's not my place, but it just caused me to be really disappointed in the human condition. Sure, it's a unique set of circumstances that 99% of American couples will NEVER have to face but at the same time, in this day and age you only have a 50-50 chance of making it through marriage, depending on what source you cite!
I don't want to come across as passing judgment or anything, and this ties back into the jealousy piece - I admit I'm a little jealous that some friends seem to have this figured out, and I know for certain that they're intelligent enough to avoid exercising poor judgment. I'm just cognizant that not everything goes according to plan, and I just wish that my friends can avoid suffering unnecessary heartaches and emotional devastation. A lot of this kind of bullshit and suffering from failed human relationships is the natural state of the world, but I think we can do better than that.
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